Yesterday I talked about the husband coming home from work. Today I will write a bit more about what I STRIVE for as Michael returns home.
I know what I have been through throughout my day. The trials, the conflicts, the lessons, the glory, the success, the funny things I want to share with Michael. I love talking and to be honest I rekon it is one thing I am really good at. Unfortunately I am not as good as listening as I am talking. At the end of the day I have a lot of things I want to share with Michael. I am fairly certain is the most up-to-date on his families events then any other father because I tell him just about everything. And when I am finished he gets reminded by children... lots of times... After my home coming experience now I try let him tell me how HIS day was, that way I know what EVERYBODY has been up to (sometimes/mostly).
THEN (he always) asks me how MY day is going :)
We usually talk 'general' talk over dinner about our day with everyone available. The children get the opportunity to share the success's of their own day to Papa to which he gets to tell them how proud he is (or thereabouts), and 'problem' stuff awhile later.
Another thing I TRY to do... Keep the children quietly entertained AS Michael enters into the home. It doesn't matter that as he pulls up there is a bit of yelling going on, so long as that moment when he walks through our front door, they are quiet and he is ENTERING into a peaceful and quiet home. At times that means the noisy children are in their bedroom playing quietly or finishing tidying up their bedroom, it also means that they might be sitting in time out quietly for not doing what I have asked them when I asked them to do so. And it doesn't matter that the noise might return a few moments AFTER Michael has come home, so long as it is QUIET when he ENTERS. Of course it is nicer if the environment STAYS peaceful and quiet but lets just say, that might be a bit much to ask for right now ;)
Whilst I can not tell you why it works, for ME it is working well (& I think he might even appreciate it).
Be sure to come back tomorrow for more :)
5 Things I am Thankful for:
1. That these simple self-restraints are working in our household
2. For the revelation of these little 'things' that can be done to help
3. For being able to share the highlights of our day with someone
4. For listening to the children ask Papa how HIS day was, and hearing them ask him WHAT he did
5. For the noisy chaos to be decreasing in our household :)
I know what I have been through throughout my day. The trials, the conflicts, the lessons, the glory, the success, the funny things I want to share with Michael. I love talking and to be honest I rekon it is one thing I am really good at. Unfortunately I am not as good as listening as I am talking. At the end of the day I have a lot of things I want to share with Michael. I am fairly certain is the most up-to-date on his families events then any other father because I tell him just about everything. And when I am finished he gets reminded by children... lots of times... After my home coming experience now I try let him tell me how HIS day was, that way I know what EVERYBODY has been up to (sometimes/mostly).
THEN (he always) asks me how MY day is going :)
We usually talk 'general' talk over dinner about our day with everyone available. The children get the opportunity to share the success's of their own day to Papa to which he gets to tell them how proud he is (or thereabouts), and 'problem' stuff awhile later.
Another thing I TRY to do... Keep the children quietly entertained AS Michael enters into the home. It doesn't matter that as he pulls up there is a bit of yelling going on, so long as that moment when he walks through our front door, they are quiet and he is ENTERING into a peaceful and quiet home. At times that means the noisy children are in their bedroom playing quietly or finishing tidying up their bedroom, it also means that they might be sitting in time out quietly for not doing what I have asked them when I asked them to do so. And it doesn't matter that the noise might return a few moments AFTER Michael has come home, so long as it is QUIET when he ENTERS. Of course it is nicer if the environment STAYS peaceful and quiet but lets just say, that might be a bit much to ask for right now ;)
Whilst I can not tell you why it works, for ME it is working well (& I think he might even appreciate it).
Be sure to come back tomorrow for more :)
5 Things I am Thankful for:
1. That these simple self-restraints are working in our household
2. For the revelation of these little 'things' that can be done to help
3. For being able to share the highlights of our day with someone
4. For listening to the children ask Papa how HIS day was, and hearing them ask him WHAT he did
5. For the noisy chaos to be decreasing in our household :)
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