I am often telling my children to use their words, to be kind, to be gentle, to love, to give love, and show love to one another. But am I doing that myself? I think, I need to.
I'll share a story with you, that will hopefully grasp a strange concept with some deep truths.
One of my very beautiful daughters has a soft tender heart. As a baby she'd drop her bottom lip and bawl her eyes out if you suddenly spoke to her with a raised voice, growled at her or made a loud noise at her. The gentlest of "no" she can not do .... or have ... would send her into a tirade of cries. She's my precious cry baby. She cries... a LOT. And very very loudly. We have a lot of tears in our home, most are hers. She's the clingyest, cuddliest, demanding of all children I've ever known, and I struggle to be her everything. When she is happy, she is very very beautiful!
For YEARS, she has gotten on my nerves, that sound vibrates through my ears and scratches the inside of my bones. I hate it, I can't stand it, I often walk away from it. Mostly I want to run away from it. But I love her, LOTS! & I miss her when she's not with me. If an Aunt is around she'll go to her first for a cuddle before trying me.
In my own anger, and my own struggles, and my own frustrations I could/would growl at her, tell her to shut up, swear at her, call her names, yell at her, etc. (I have done some of that at times) But I chose to call her what I see her as, a PRINCESS! For 3 years I've been calling her a princess. She believes she is a Princess, to me it is the TRUTH! But imagine, just imagine for a moment what she would believe if I called her clingy or demanding or noisy or annoying or loud or GRRR something else! She would believe that. But that's not all, she would become it.
I have to admit, in my heart from time to time calling her a princess meant that she is such a diva! but for ME hearing the words 'your a princess' reminded me of my love for her, it reminded me that she is worthy and important and in need of special care. It reminds me to be gentle and treat her with kindness, and patience and most of all with love.
When it comes to our husbands, we can do the same. We can pull them down for everything they do 'wrong' (or wrong to/for us) OR we can call them our Princess (:D) & in time they will believe that they are our Princess.
These men of ours go off to work, and work long hours with people who don't have to search under the bed for dirty stinky socks that you then have to wash, & they (can) respect our men more. So straight out tell them! "I think your my Princess and I appreciate that you went to work for us today!" Find, just ONE thing at LEAST to praise him about (Your a great Father, I appreciate the effort you put in, Thank you for going to work for us, because of you our family gets to keep a roof over our heads/food at our table/clothes on our bodies)
It also shows the children to respect their father and in turn others also. A valuable trait in my eyes.
I am doubtful that a husband wants to spend TIME with his woman who uses her words to tell him that he is anything BUT a Princess, & remember, the aim of this series is to be a wife to RUSH home to...
5 Things I am Thankful for:
1. A car that gets my husband HOME
2. The use of the word Princess
3. The ego boost of my man... "Muscles" who also happens to be my princess
4. That my man now WORKS
5. That I had the opportunity to call my man Princess ONLINE (hee hee)
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