One statement decided that 'they [non-mothers] are still in high-school'.
Over the past 6-7yrs of being a parent myself I've discovered that often other mothers 'lose' friends, or rather they don't seem to have the relationships they once had. They are no longer 'in the scene' at the pub or parties every available night.
I don't think it's so much as 'losing friends' or even 'they weren't really true friends anyway' as it is different seasons in our lives.
Some work, others think they can't disturb you cos the baby is asleep or they don't feel they can just drop in like maybe they used to. Perhaps they've got so much going on in their own life that they are trying to keep up with their own stuff, or perhaps they are genuinely busy and it's out of their control.
Just like you can't necessarily drop by anyone's place with a baby or small children when your free and available, you can't always just drop your life to go visit others.
I think motherhood isn't so much as losing friends as it is gaining others. Relationships take work, whether friends or partners or family.
Motherhood isn't just some casual job, it's a permanent lifestyle change that lasts until death.
Motherhood shouldn't be the end of relationships, but more the begining of new ones. New relationships formed with children and life that sets a new pace for our lives.
I guess this is where Titus 2 steps in where older women teach younger women how to love their husband and love their children ;)
Yep, it's all friendships and relationships. Are you building yours today?
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